The birth story of Jaya Josephine Morin:
At 30 weeks along in my pregnancy we decided to switch to a home birth midwife. We knew we wanted to try for natural child birth and after taking a course in hypnobirthing we both felt really confident in our decision to home birth.
It's a totally different and much more nurturing experience working with a home birth midwife . All our prenatal visits took place on our living room couch. Our midwives were so sweet and even the cockapoo sisters sat in on most of our appointments. Everything in my pregnancy was moving along beautifully. Thankfully I was able to stop working around the same time so I had a lot of time to prepare for our Homebirth, relax, practice meditation, and positive birth affirmations.
It's really cool preparing for a Homebirth. Your energy and intention goes into all the details. Since home is not a hospital we had to prepare by purchasing the little things like a birthing pool, a tray for the placenta, wee wee pads, extra towels and blankets etc. I loved being apart of all that and having a hand in it. I made a affirmation board with positive birth affirmations and pictures of Josh and I. Anything to keep the love flowing and remind me that birth is normal and natural. We set everything up in Jayas room where I spent most of my labor in a birth pool.
Jayas due date was June 8th. Up till then I had been receiving weekly acupuncture and chiropractic adjustments and at 36 weeks on I started eating 6 dates a day. They say dates have a oxytocin like effect and help get your body ready for birth. At 39 weeks I was checked and I was 2 centimeters dilated and 70% effaced.
On Thursday June 9th at 10:00 pm I decided to try Clary Sage essential oil. They say it can help bring on labor. So I placed a few drops on the points the acupuncturist had been needling to help with the downward flow of energy. Within 45 minutes I started feeling period like cramps which continued throughout the night.
The next day Friday June 10th I still was having period like cramps but not as much as the night before so I used the clary sage a few more times throughout the day. That evening around 5:00 my acupuncturist came over and she did needles to help induce labor. After we finished and before she left I went to the bathroom only to find I lost my mucus plug! Some quick working acupuncture ;)
After that I was having light contractions (we call them surges or waves) every 30 minutes lasting 40 seconds. We decided we should eat a good dinner and go for a walk in town while we wait. So I had raw sushi for the first time since I had been pregnant . I figured she would be born soon anyways :)
After our meal me, Josh, and my best friend Sharee went on a walk in town and met up with some friends to watch the sunset over the Port Jeff harbor. Funny, our friend Chris who we met up with told us the next day was his birthday! Looks like he would be sharing it with Jaya :) Along with Joshs sister and nephew .
By 11:00 pm we decided to get settled in bed. Good thing we have a king size bed! I was in the middle and Josh and Sharee laid on either side of me. The surges were getting a little more intense like bad period cramps and now they were coming every 20 minutes still lasting about 40 seconds. Every time I had a surge Josh and Sharee would give me the chills on my arms. It was very helpful. The lights were off and I had my salt candle burning and my mantra music playing. Eventually Sharee and Josh fell asleep and I lay awake with each surge. It was actually nice to have a few hours alone to myself with the surges still manageable but getting more intense. I was laying propped up on my back with my legs in butterfly. During each surge I would sway my head from side to side to the beat of the music and give my belly the chills. I was drifting in and out of consciousness and the time was very sweet and sacred.
By 2:00 AM the surges were coming every 4 minutes lasting 1 minute. I woke up Sharee and we decided I should call the Doula. We let Josh sleep in a bit more.
By 3:30 the Doula was over and we woke up Josh. While the Doula and Sharee supported me by giving me the chills on my back, Josh started filling up the birthing pool with warm water.
By dawn I was in the tub having surges every 3 minutes lasting one minute. The warm water was heaven sent! It was everything! I was so happy in that pool. In between surges I was having conversations and eating. During surges I concentrated on my breath. I thought about how we would be bringing Jaya on the family beach vacation, I got lost in my mantras playing. The same mantras I would chant daily in Jayas room while pregnant. Everyday I would chant and ask God and all my guides to be with me and baby Jaya and for protection during what would be our beautiful Home birth.
I'm so lucky and thankful to had have the best support available. My Doula Dawn was just perfect. She's a sweet being full of love and very nurturing. When out of the pool she would hug me for each surge while Josh and Sharee gave me the chills. When in the pool she would pour water down my back and use a cold wash cloth on my face.
Sharee was amazing! She literally pressed on acupressure points for pain relief the whole time! She never gave up!! And it was so helpful and needed. Also her empathetic nature connected to what I was feeling and she was able to respond and know exactly what I needed.
Josh my husband and biggest support. He's just amazing. He made sure everything was in its right place. He held me, gave me the chills, kissed me sweetly, and reassured me. He reminded me of my power.
By 7:00 AM both midwives had arrived and our moms showed up shortly after.
Once the midwives arrived I found out I was 8 cm dilated and my water broke after being checked.
The rest of the time (before pushing) I spent in the pool getting out every now and again to walk around the house, up and down the stairs, outside in the backyard.
The surges were getting very intense and I threw up which told me we were getting close to the end. While in the pool I wasn't feeling the urge to push so our midwives suggested we walk down stairs. Once downstairs our quick thinking midwives set us up in the most sweet way to help Jaya descend downwards and give me and Josh some loving time together. They had Josh sit on one of our kitchen chairs and had me sit on his lap facing him with my legs straddled around him. It was so sweet. I laid with my head rested on his shoulder and my arms wrapped around him. During each surge I did my best to melt into him and release all my muscles. Sharee was on the floor behind Josh still lovingly squeezing the acupressure points on my hands. Everyone else was sitting relaxed around us and we all just waited. After a few minutes of this I finally started to feel the urge to push. I was very tired at this point so our midwives suggested I lay on my side on our couch propped with pillows to push. I had wanted to have her in the water but at this point I was so tired and the couch looked very comfortable. Also there is something so very special about our living room. It's definitely the brightest room in the house and it's where we spend most of our time including the many Reiki attunement classes we have taught in that very room. Also that same week one year earlier we moved into our house and the first night we slept on the living room floor, I had a vivid dream that I gave birth to a baby girl.
Once I hit the couch it was time to push! I pushed for an hour and a half. There was about five minutes between the surges to push and I fell asleep during that break time. Something you don't hear a lot about birth is how you get breaks between surges. Our doula taught us at the end of each surge to take a big inhale and exhale through the mouth to blow away that surge. Once I would blow it away it was like I wasn't in labor. I enjoyed my breaks and was able to talk and laugh between the surges.
Pushing was definitely the hardest part of the whole experience. There were times I let myself doubt. It felt like I wouldn't have enough power to get her out. Every time I had a doubtful thought I tried to switch it to a positive thought and envision her being born. As her head got lower I heard the excitement is everyone's voices but during the breaks the room was so quite just how I wanted it. Quite and calm.. It was beautiful. I definitely felt what they call the ring of fire (oh yay!) but soon after that she was out! I managed to conjure up enough power to push her out! I was vocal about it for sure but needed to use my throat/sound to generate the power the push. I used my grunting from the back of my throat and pushed that energy down towards the baby and out she came!
Jaya Josephine Morin was born June 11th at 11:40 AM on our living room couch! 7 lbs 6oz 21 inches of pure joy!
It was amazing! We waited for the cord to stop pulsing before Josh cut it. She had no vernix and a full head of hair.
Side note: throughout this whole experience the cockapoo sisters were sleeping next to me wherever I was. They were so relaxed the whole time.
After holding my babe for about an hour our midwives cleaned everything up, they made me a smoothie with a piece of the placenta to help with the recovery, they helped me shower, and get cleaned up while Josh had skin to skin with the baby. Then they helped us in bed and set Jaya up to nurse. She latched on like a pro and has been nursing beautifully. After everything was said and done we all ate Tiger Lily. Sharee fed me my lunch. Such a good friend!
After everyone left Josh , my mom, Sharee and myself all sat on our bed and admired Jaya as she slept and relaxed at HOME! It was Jaya- Victory!
Side note: Never in a million years did I think I would have a home birth. Im actually really bad with pain and have had a problem with anxiety and panic attacks most of my adult life. I was determined to over come the fear of pain for this birth, to be confident in my body as a woman, and to be confident in my baby. With the right support, a safe place to birth, and surrender natural birth is totally possible and a beautiful experience. If I can do it anyone can do it! Thanks for reading!